Dating Finnish guys, or hopefully, dating a Finnish man, is potentially miraculous! Are you dreaming of a relationship with him but have no idea how to proceed?

Thanks to the mighty internet and due to my natural background (aka one blonde Finnish lady is greeting you here behind her laptop), I am here to help.

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Fear not, as I have a lot of experience of Finnish men and know what I am talking about! Errr… that sentence sounded so much better and less misinterpretable in my head.

Anyway, here’s what I’m going to cover in this post.

The Best Guide to Dating Finnish Guys

Yes, I very humbly named this post because, let’s face it, there isn’t much stuff around about this topic.

A small disclaimer, though. Finnish girls don’t understand Finnish guys completely, either.

I feel that some of the challenges are cultural but other challenges are basic struggles in any relationship.  

That being said, I cannot but agree that sometimes the cultural differences are very big.

So, let’s try to see things from his perspective before you jump to conclusions. I’m the first one to admit, that sometimes that jump is faster than lightning. (And here special thanks go to my hubby who has to live with me 24/7!)

How to get Started with Dating a Finnish Guy?

Okay, here is the bad news. In most cases, you must be quite active. If you are waiting for your Finnish prince to realize with intuitive clues that you are into him, he won’t understand them.

Here are some helpful opening lines for you:

• Hei! What’s the best beer to drink here?
• Hei! Do we go to the same gym/class/school?

Note that he could just reply with a yes or no. That’s normal in Finland. Try next a question which cannot be answered with a yes or no. Like:

• What’s your favorite thing to do in this city
• Could you recommend me some Finnish food to try

You can do this girl!

What’s it Like to Date a Finnish Guy?

Since I’m talking about Finnish men, it made total sense to do a tutorial video about this topic with a Finnish guy!

So, without further ado, here is Aleksi. He is one tall, handsome and smart Finnish vlogger. Many of his hilarious (and true!) videos are about Finnish culture.

Check our video to learn what’s it like to date a Finnish guy and, in detail, what mistakes to avoid when dating a Finnish guy!

Five Tips to Remember when Dating a Finnish man

Okay, so now we have heard it from a Finnish guy!

Here are my girly tips to help you not to stress about the situation. Finnish guys are adorable. 

He wants to get to know you

A Finnish man doesn’t carry a big cultural expectation about how a woman should be. In Finland, women can be whatever and live however they choose. Personally, I feel the only boundaries are those which we women make to ourselves.

So share your dreams and goals of life. Tell him your bad habits (picking your nose, having a specific place for everything in the dishwasher, etc.). He wants to get to know the real you and all sides of you!

Suggest things

Be proactive. You are two individuals with minds full of ideas, so don’t make him always take the initiative. In Finnish, we have an adjective called “perässä vedettävä.” It describes something or someone who is pulled along behind like a trailer is towed by a car.

You don’t want to be his trailer; you want to be in the car, making the journey together.

Don’t mope

It is exhausting and annoying to be even in the same room with a sulking person. It just completely sucks all energy out of you.

For some reason, we ladies (and yes, I also include us Finnish women) are the experts in this field. As moping is a colossal turn-off, talk the situation through or opt for some me-time and come back spirits lifted.

Be genuinely interested

Ask about his background, traditions, and hobbies. Even better, if you want to try some of the things he loves.

For example, a Finnish man may have a close relationship with nature. It might be important for him to fish and hike in the wilderness.

Even though this might be a little strange or even scary to you, see if you enjoy it too. In the worst case scenario, you are a bit bored but get a nice dose of fresh air.

Accept his social background

Many other nationalities must feel that Finns are quiet and reserved. It is as genuine and inbuilt cultural norm as the total opposite of being a very talkative, loud and touchy person. Neither style is wrong.

Most of us Finns have a need for space and silence, also within our families.

I know many Finnish couples who meet each other’s families very rare, maybe a couple times a year.

Blending into a more communal culture can be quite a shock for a Finn. Showing support is the best thing you can do.

The Last Thing You Need to Know about Dating Finnish Guys

In some countries, girls are taught that they may meet the man of their dreams on whatever quick visit to the store. Thus, they are always prepared and dressed to kill when they go outside.

In Finland, girls are taught the following: The man of your dreams will probably see you in horrible influenza, when you are too drunk and when you are delivering his babies.

What I am trying to say here is that a Finnish man will, for sure, love you without any makeup or a fancy wardrobe. Most Finnish men say that their ladies are the most beautiful when they are coming from a sauna, all fresh and rosy-cheeked.

Hey, are you looking for more relationship related information about us Finns? Check out some of the other posts:

• 10 Reasons to Love a Finnish Man
• Finland Dating Guide: the ABC of Finnish Dating Culture
• 10 Reasons to Love a Finnish Woman
• Learn the Secret of Making Finnish Friends
• 5 Reasons Why Finnish In-Laws are Awesome

Warm wishes from Finland, 
Varpu