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Finland Dating Culture: From A to L
Anticipation. If you haven’t already googled, stalked on Instagram or spied on Facebook, cancel the date and let a Finn out of his/her misery. You are not that into us. It is not nice to play with food.
Bridezilla. There is a 90% chance you will get a bridezilla if you plan to marry a Finnish woman. Unfortunately, there is no way of pointing out the 10% which are not before you kneel down. There is a 100% chance you will be a bridezilla if you marry a Finnish man.
Cuddles. There are no restrictions on PDA in Finland. That’s most likely because they are so rare. We show very little physical (and verbal) proofs of our love. However, we are still totally smitten with you!
Darkness. We are a bit somber. Best way to check the level of our darkness is to ask about our music taste. If the reply includes bands like Stratovarius, Sonata Arctica, and Nightwish, prepare for a Finnish metal heart.
Effective dating. Finns tend to date only one person at a time. If you are dating several people and keeping your options open, please don’t let us know and keep it super casual with us. Or even better, just don’t do that at all to a Finn.
Flirt. How to flirt with a Finn? It’s really simple. Smile and take an eye contact. Proceed to
Gig or movie. A good place for the first date with a Finn. Reason for that in the letter M (as in Muteness).
House. The ultimate love testimony of a Finn is when he/she starts building a house for his/her family. You can also count any massive renovation as a
Inferno. Dating inferno for a Finn is when some old relatives ask relationship status in front of a large group of people.
Jester. See Jester on a second date if the first date was not downright awful. Talkative Finns (rare but they exist) might use jokes to hide insecurity. You can find a prince behind this mask.
Kulta. The most common way to say Dear in Finnish. We are quite creative with nicknames so your sweetheart can come up with a much more personal name for you.
Late. Finns are very clock-aware. If we are running late more than 5 minutes late, we let the other person know. Not whatsupping sorry and new time slot for arrival is rude!
Finland Dating Culture: From M to Z
Muteness. We Finns are at no point in our lives taught to small talk! Check this post for details. If a Finn is quiet, that doesn’t mean anything negative. Quite the opposite, most likely he/she is comfortable with you. Try wine, tequila or absinthe, if the situation is desperate.
Nibbling. It is a very positive sign. It means that a Finn is utterly relaxed with you. Particularly we women just love to try out food on another person’s plate. Accept it or be ready to fight for your right to have all the food on your plate. If you have a Finnish man-nibbler, set clear rules to how much you want to eat. If you don’t, your food (especially candies) may disappear within seconds.
Oneway openness. What is funny is that Finns rarely ask you questions when they are getting to know you. On the other hand, if you ask us anything (no matter how difficult or straight the question it might be), you always get an honest answer without blinking an eye.
Politeness. This is kit mint to Finns as we have no please in our language. When you are normal, we think you are flirting with us. Personally, as a 16-year old au pair in UK, I thought the whole town loved me because of those darlings and sweethearts at the end of the sentences.
Qwerty. Your Finn may be a nerd. That’s okay; we are cute and useful. Just make sure that computer games aren’t a passion because then they, for sure, spend a lot of time with Xbox, PlayStation or World of Warcraft. On the other hand, that’s me-time to you!
Road trip. Finland is a long country so we are used to distances and driving. Pack snacks, good music and take your sweetie up north or to the coastline. We will love it.
Soulmate. In case you were wondering: having a soulmate feels like riding a cotton candy unicorn, being a top-class brain surgeon and saving the world from all worries at the same time.
Tab. We can go 50/50, but you are not a gentleman if you are not paying.
Upset. With us women, it is so damn easy. You can read it from our face with a neon sign. With a Finnish guy, that poker face takes months to decipher.
Voice. If you are in a relationship or dating a Finn, you really need to hear his/her voice and preferably see the face too. This is the modern age! Sending messages is not a relationship.
Whatsupping. If she/he is regularly not answering your messages even though she/he has read them and replies later or not all of them, move on. I’m so sorry. Most likely, he/she isn’t that into you but doesn’t say it out loud, which is stupid and immature.
Ex – Girlfriends & Boyfriends. You can ask about them but don’t let them be the subject for too long. Usually, people briefly talk around these subjects on a first date (How long has your longest relationship been? How long have you been single?).
Young. You do not ask a woman’s age in Finland if you are a man. Never. Ever. Full stop.
Zone. We Finns have a need of circular personal space about 1-1,5 meter in radius. Step inside it unwanted and a Finn will step backward accordingly. This is nothing personal. It just takes time to make it to our comfort zone. When you’re in it, you stay there forever.
And it’s a wrap! That is Finland dating culture 101!
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